Thursday, August 6, 2009

Carolyn Johnson: The joy of boredom

http://www.dallasnews.com/sharedcontent/dws/dn/opinion/points/stories/DN-johnson_23edi.ART.State.Edition1.464c4cc.html

Don't check that e-mail. Don't answer that phone. Just sit there. You might be surprised by what happens.
10:27 AM CDT on Sunday, March 23, 2008

A decade ago, those monotonous minutes were just a fact of life: time ticking away, as you gazed idly into space, stood in line, or sat in bumper-to-bumper traffic.

The joy of boredom
JAMES STEINBERG/Special Contributor

Boredom's doldrums were unavoidable, yet also a primordial soup for some of life's most quintessentially human moments. Jostled by a stranger's cart in the express checkout line, thoughts of a loved one might come to mind. A long drive home after a frustrating day could force ruminations. A pang of homesickness at the start of a plane ride might put a journey in perspective.

Increasingly, these empty moments are being saturated with productivity, communication and the digital distractions offered by an ever-expanding array of slick mobile devices. A few years ago, cellphone maker Motorola even began using the word "microboredom" to describe the ever-smaller slices of free time from which new mobile technology offers an escape. "Mobisodes," two-minute long television episodes of everything from Lost to Prison Break made for the cellphone screen, are perfectly tailored for the microbored. Cellphone games are often designed to last just minutes – simple, snack-sized diversions like Snake, solitaire and Tetris. Social networks like Twitter and Facebook turn every mundane moment between activities into a chance to broadcast feelings and thoughts, even if it is just to triple-tap a keypad with the words "I am bored."

But are we too busy twirling through the songs on our iPods – while checking e-mail, while changing lanes on the highway – to consider whether we are giving up a good thing?

We are most human when we feel dull. Lolling around in a state of restlessness is one of life's greatest luxuries – one not available to creatures that spend all their time pursuing mere survival. To be bored is to stop reacting to the external world, and to explore the internal one. It is in these times of reflection that people often discover something new, whether it is an epiphany about a relationship or a new theory about the way the universe works.

Granted, many people emerge from boredom feeling that they have accomplished nothing. But is accomplishment really the point of life? There is a strong argument that boredom – so often parodied as a glassy-eyed drooling state of nothingness – is an essential human emotion that underlies art, literature, philosophy, science and even love.

"If you think of boredom as the prelude to creativity, and loneliness as the prelude to engagement of the imagination, then they are good things," said Dr. Edward Hallowell, a psychiatrist and author of the book CrazyBusy. "They are doorways to something better, as opposed to something to be abhorred and eradicated immediately."

Public health officials often bemoan the obesity epidemic, the unintended consequence of a modern lifestyle that allows easy access to calories. Technology seems to offer a similar proposition: a wide array of distractions that offer the boon of connection, but at a cost. Already, mobile technology has shaped the way people interact and communicate. People no longer make plans in the same way; public spaces have become semi-private bubbles of conversation; and things like getting a busy signal or being unreachable seem foreign, even quaint.

Today, distraction from monotony is not merely available; it is almost unavoidable.

Perhaps nothing illuminates the speed of social change better than the new fear of disconnection. People driving a car or waiting in a doctor's office have always had some distractions available to them, from the radio to National Geographic. But until the advent of connected devices, they were still, fundamentally, alone in some way.

Today, there is a growing fear of the prospect of being untethered in the world without the security blanket of a cellphone. In the timescale of human inventions, the mobile phone is still new, but it is already a crucial part of the trinity of things people fear to forget when they leave the house – keys, wallet, phone.

"There is this hyper-anxiety over feeling lonely or disconnected," said Kathleen Cumiskey, a professor of psychology and women's studies at the College of Staten Island who says her stepdaughter sleeps with her cellphone at arm's length and considers turning the device off unthinkable. "Our society is perpetually anxious, and a way to alleviate the anxiety is to delve into something that's very within our control, pleasurable and fun. ... It feels like it has all the makings of addiction."

In a way, the entrepreneurs looking to capitalize on the small moments of spare time that are sprinkled through modern life parallel the pharmaceutical industry. A growing chorus of mental health specialists has begun to question whether normal sadness and social anxiety are being transformed into disorders that people believe need to be cured – by the companies offering elixirs. The tech industry may be doing the same thing with disconnection.

Many of the original arguments for having a cellphone – safety, security, emergencies – never figure into the advertisements. Like the commercials that show frowning people transformed into smiling, kitten-cuddling normality, technology companies project a happy world of connection where to intentionally disconnect seems freakish, questionable, undeniably an ailment.

Society has accepted connection so well that it takes a step back to see exactly how far things have come. Instead of carrying their entire social universe in a pocket, people used to walk out of their houses and into the world. Today, not picking up the phone for an hour is an act of defiance.

Perhaps understandably, boredom has never caught the attention of the psychological world. Emotions like anxiety, fear and anger have been subjected to a much more thorough examination than merely feeling drab, according to Richard Ralley, a lecturer in psychology at Edge Hill University in England.

"What's gone wrong with the psychology of emotion is that the ones that are easy to do are the ones that have been researched: fear, threat, fear, threat, again and again and again," Dr. Ralley said. "A lot of other emotions that really make us human – pride, for instance – we kind of avoid."

So, Dr. Ralley set out to examine boredom more closely, with the idea that the feeling must have a purpose. Just looking around, it was evident that children quell boredom quite naturally, with creativity. But as people get older, anxious parents and cranky children demand more and more specific stimuli, whether it is a video game or a hot new phone.

As Dr. Ralley studied boredom, it came to make a kind of sense: If people are slogging away at an activity with little reward, they get annoyed and find themselves feeling bored. If something more engaging comes along, they move on. If nothing does, they may be motivated enough to think of something new themselves. The most creative people, he said, are known to have the greatest toleration for long periods of uncertainty and boredom.

"When we're writing deeply, writing thoughtfully, we are often trying to communicate with ourselves and trying to communicate what ultimately can't be communicated – the greatest mysteries of the world: What is truth? What is beauty? What is being?" said Eric G. Wilson, an English professor at Wake Forest University and author of the new book Against Happiness.

Arthur Wright, 55, who works in the travel industry, said that he refuses to carry a cellphone precisely because he has seen the effects every time he ventures into one of the confession booths our public spaces have become.

"You hear these stupid conversations. ... You know, it's just 'I'm bored,' and they'll call and chit-chat on the phone," Mr. Wright said. "'I'm almost there. I'm turning the corner right now.' ... What would they do without it? It's like kids who use a calculator in school, and they can't add."

Connectivity, of course, has serious advantages. Parents can check in with their kids. Friends separated by hundreds of miles can have a conversation. People feel safer.

Still, there has been surprisingly little public discussion of the broad sociological and psychological impact the technology will have. Like much change, it has crept up on people and radically changed behavior and expectations in ways few people could have predicted. At one time, the car was a novelty – things like getting gas and driving on good roads were difficult to do. Today, the modern world is built around an automotive infrastructure, and is almost impossible to navigate without one.

"We set up a society that functions that way," said Rich Ling, a researcher at the Norwegian telecom firm Telenor and author of New Tech, New Ties. "And the mobile phone is starting to work in that way."

But as it becomes more difficult to imagine a world without constant connectivity, the very concept of "microboredom" may begin to lower people's tolerance for even a second of empty time.

Paradoxically, as cures for boredom have proliferated, people do not seem to feel less bored; they simply flee it with more energy, flitting from one activity to the next. Dr. Ralley has noticed a kind of placid look among his students over the past few years, a "laptop culture" that he finds perplexing.

They have more channels to be social; there are always things to do. And yet people seem oddly numb. They are not quite bored, but not really interested either.

That means steeping in uninterrupted boredom may be the first step toward feeling connected. It "may take a little bit of tolerance of an initial feeling of boredom, to discover a comfort level with not being linked in and engaged and stimulated every second," said Jerome Wakefield, a professor of social work at New York University and co-author of The Loss of Sadness. "There's a level of knowing yourself, of coming back to baseline and knowing who you truly are."

Or, just go ahead. Your phone is vibrating with a message, your e-mail is piling up, a hilarious YouTube video is waiting to entertain you.

Me, too.

Carolyn Y. Johnson covers business for the Boston Globe. Her e-mail address is cjohnson@globe.com.

Monday, July 27, 2009

~~ tama tama. T.T

"my goal is not to wake up at forty with a bitter realization that i wasted my life at a job i hate because i was forced to decide on a career in my teens." - daria

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

`Summer' a clever spin on classic boy-meets-girl (AP)


post from: Yahoo movies
link: http://movies.yahoo.com/news/movies.ap.org/summer39-clever-spin-classic-boymeetsgirl-ap

LOS ANGELES - Boy meets girl, boy loses girl, boy tries to win girl back: It's a tale you've heard a million times before. But it's told in such a relatable, inventive way in "500 Days of Summer," it almost feels like the first time.

It is the first time for director Marc Webb, who puts his music video and commercial background to good use with stylish tactics that are lively — a cheeky dance sequence, perfect song choices, a clever use of split screen — but never feel gratuitous.

And the script from Scott Neustadter and Michael H. Weber keeps things moving by jumping back and forth in time between Day 500, Day 1 and everywhere in between; the structure also creates a feeling of curiosity throughout, because we know this relationship is doomed, we just don't know how it falls apart.

We watch it all unfold with bemusement and dread through the lovelorn eyes of Joseph Gordon-Levitt's Tom Hansen, a would-be architect toiling away at a greeting card company. (So maybe it's a bit convenient that Tom, who has immature, idealistic notions about love, should make his living writing facile platitudes on the subject. Surely an education is in store for him.)

Tom thinks he's found the perfect woman in Summer Finn (Zooey Deschanel), his boss' beautiful new assistant who's just arrived in Los Angeles. One look at those big, blue eyes and he's instantly smitten; this is the lovely Deschanel, after all, so who could blame him? Her alluring, mysterious presence is just the right fit here.

"500 Days of Summer" allows Tom to regale us with memories of this life-altering romance — and because they're his memories, told entirely from his perspective, they're more than a little romanticized in both the highs and lows. But that's part of the film's charm: the spot-on observation that everything seems magnified and it matters more when it's happening to us. (Tom's closest friends and sounding boards, played by Geoffrey Arend and Matthew Gray Gubler, aren't particularly helpful — or funny, for that matter.)

Summer has fantastic taste in everything — all the same stuff Tom likes — but there's also a classic femininity to her, with the bows and headbands she wears in her long, dark hair and the girlish frocks in her signature color of pale blue. But again, this is the way Tom remembers her. The downtown L.A. production number he and a bunch of strangers burst into after his first night with Summer — to Hall & Oates' "You Make My Dreams Come True," of all songs — is infectious and inspired. Later, at a dark point, the Smiths' "Please Please Please Let Me Get What I Want" captures his emotions just as precisely.

Why she turns suddenly cold is baffling to him, and to us; she told him at the start that she didn't want anything serious, but it all seemed to be going so well. Then again, she's meant to be an elusive concept. Like the season she's named for, she clearly can't stick around forever.

Through every moment of jubilation and anxiety, Gordon-Levitt makes us feel for him; he's still so appealing even when he's miserable, you almost don't want to see him succeed. You could imagine John Cusack playing this role 20 years ago: Gordon-Levitt, co-star of TV's "3rd Rock From the Sun" and films including "Brick" and "The Lookout," has a similar everyman likability and determination, but he's just as adept at showing a deeper, more vulnerable side.

Unlike the whirlwind romance of "500 Days of Summer," this is a career that's clearly made to last.

"500 Days of Summer," a Fox Searchlight release, is rated PG-13 for sexual material and language. Running time: 96 minutes. Three stars out of four.

Monday, June 15, 2009

quota quotes

men are weird. either they talk too much or they don't talk at all. but when you're having a conversation and they do talk, they suddenly try to change the subject.

the worst thing that can happen to you in a relationship is to fall into second place.

we can never be what we think we are unless people see us as we see ourselves. which almost never happens.

it is a crazy world. but the people are even crazier. and they themselves don't have the slightest idea.

Friday, June 5, 2009

PERO.

alam mo, kung gusto mo talaga marinig ng ibang tao ang music nyo, gagawin nyo kahit ano para magawa yun

yun na nga, yung mga pagpasa ng mga kanta nyo sa kung saan saan

hindi mo naman malalaman yung mga ganyan kung hindi mo maeexperience e

PERO. hindi mo rin maikakalat yung music nyo kung hindi kayo magrrisk

is it not? :):)


-sinabi ko lang sa kabanda ko dati. nag-uusap kame. ayun. gusto ko lang i-post.

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

my must see movies (sa ngayon)

just click the images for the trailers.


Monday, May 11, 2009

Ganito na ba tayo? wag naman sana.

Gising, Tol.

Tumatanda ka na, tol.

Nasa Friday Magic Madness na yung mga paborito mong kanta.
Nakaka-relate ka na sa Classic MTV. Lesbiana na yung kinaaaliwan mong
child star dati. Nanay na lagi ang role ng crush na crush mong matinee
idol noon.

Dati, pag may panot, sisigaw ka agad ng "PENDONG!". Ngayon, pag may
sumisigaw nun, ikaw na yung napapraning. Parang botika na ang cabinet
mo. May multivitamins, vitamin E, vitamin C, royal jelly, tsaka ginko
biloba.

Dati, laging may inuman. Sa inuman, may lech on, sisig, kaldereta,
inihaw na liempo, pusit, at kung anu-ano pa. Ngayon, nagkukumpulan na
lang kayo ng mga kasama mo sa Starbucks at oorder ng tea.

Wala na ang mga kaibigan mo noon.

Ang dating masasayang tawanan ng barkada sa canteen, napalitan na ng
walang katapusang pagrereklamo tungkol sa kumpanya ninyo. Wala na ang
best friend mo na lagi mong pinupuntahan kapag may problema ka. Ang
lagi mo na lang kausap ngayon e ang kaopisina mong hindi ka sigurado
kung binebenta ka sa iba pag nakatalikod ka. Ang hirap nang magtiwala.

Mahirap nang makahanap ng totoong kaibigan. Hindi mo kayang
pagkatiwalaan ang kasama mo araw-araw sa opisina. Kung sabagay,
nagkakilala lang kayo dahil gusto ninyong kumita ng pera at umakyat sa
tinatawag nilang "corporate ladder". Anumang pagkakaibigang umusbong
galing sa pera at ambisyon ay hindi talaga totoong pagkakaibigan. Pera
din at ambisyon ang sisira sa inyong dalawa.

Pera. Pera na ang nagpapatakbo ng buhay mo.

Alipin ka na ng Meralco, PLDT, SkyCable, Globe, Smart, at Sun. Alipin
ka ng Midnight Madness. Alipin ka ng tollgate sa expressway. Alipin ka
ng credit card mo. Alipin ka ng ATM. Alipin ka ng BIR.

Dati-rati masaya ka na sa isang platong instant pancit canton. Ngayon,
dapat may kasamang italian chicken ang fettucine alfredo mo. Masaya ka
na noon pag nakakapag-ober-da-bakod kayo para makapagswimming. Ngayon,
ayaw mong lumangoy kung hindi Boracay o Puerto Galera ang lugar. Dati,
sulit na sulit na sa yo ang gin pomelo. Ngayon, pagkatapos ng ilang
bote ng red wine, maghahanap ka ng San Mig Light o Vodka Cruiser.

Wala ka nang magawa. Sumasabay ang lifestyle mo sa income mo.
Nagtataka ka kung bakit hindi ka pa rin nakakaipon kahit tumataas ang
sweldo mo. Yung mga bagay na gusto mong bilhin dati na sinasabi mong
hindi mo kailangan, abot-kamay mo na. Pero kahit nasa iyo na ang mga
gusto mong bilhin, hindi ka pa rin makuntento.

Saan ka ba papunta?

Tol, gumising ka. Hindi ka nabuhay sa mundong ito para maging isa lang
sa mga baterya ng mga machines sa Matrix. Hanapin mo ang dahilan kung
bakit nilagay ka rito. Kung ang buhay mo ngayon ay uulit-ulit lang
hanggang maging singkwenta anyos ka na, magsisisi ka. Lumingon ka kung
paano ka nagsimula, isipin ang mga tao at mga bagay na nagpasaya sa
yo. Balikan mo sila.

Ikaw ang nagbago, hindi ang mundo.

-Anonymous